10 STRATEGIES TO BUILD YOUR EQ
Not knowledge, education, experience or intellectual power are predictors as to why one person succeeds and another doesn’t. We observe that some well-educated people struggle. While others with fewer obvious skills or attributes flourish. Why? The answer almost always has to do with emotional intelligence EQ.
EQ is no longer a secret, we have been talking about it some time, but somehow we still see that many professionals have difficulty to harness its power. Do you have a full understanding of your emotions, not to mention the emotions of others, and an understanding of how our emotions influence our lives fundamentally every day?
In this article, you’ll find some strategies in how you can manage EQ in your daily life.
Before we dive into some strategies it is important to understand the five components of EQ:
· Social awareness
· Relationship management
With the five components in mind it’s good to define some strategies:
1. Reflect on your feelings
Self- and social awareness begins with self-reflection. What are your answers to questions like: What are my emotional strengths? What are my weaknesses? How does my current mood affect my thoughts and decision making? What’s going on under the surface that influences what others say or do? Pondering questions like these yield valuable insights that can be used to your advantage.
2. Take a break
Take a break before you speak or act. (Easy in theory, difficult in practice.) This can help save you from embarrassing moments or from making commitments too quickly. It refrains you from making decisions based on a temporary emotion.
3. Be in control of your thoughts
It is difficult to control our emotions we experience in a given moment. But we can control our reaction to those emotions–by focusing on our thoughts. This way we don’t become a slave to our emotions.
4. Embrace feedback
Nobody enjoys negative feedback. But you know it is a chance to learn, even if it’s not delivered in the best way. And even when it’s unfounded, it gives you a window into how others think.
5. Be authentic
This means say what you mean, meaning what you say, and sticking to your values and principles above all else.
6. Be empathic.
The ability to show empathy, which includes understanding others’ thoughts and feelings, helps you connect with others. Instead of judging or labelling others, you work hard to see things through their eyes.
7. Praise others.
We all crave acknowledgement and appreciation. When you praise others, you satisfy that craving and build trust in the process.
It takes strength and courage to be able to say you’re sorry. But doing so demonstrates humility, a quality that will naturally draw others to you. It does mean you value the relationship more than your ego.
9. Forgive and forget.
Hanging on to resentment is like leaving a knife inside a wound. When you forgive, and forget, you prevent others from holding your emotions hostage–allowing you to move forward.
10. Help others.
One of the greatest ways to positively impact the emotions of others is to help them. Be there for them even when they don’t ask for your support. Actions like these build trust and inspire others to follow your lead when it counts.
BY FRANK KUIJSTERS
Director – Digne Consult Asia Pacific